Tuesday, 26 July 2016

Intensify oil exploration in Northern Nigeria, Presidency orders NNPC

President Muhammadu Buhari has ordered the Nigerian National Petroleum Corporation, NNPC, to increase the tempo on crude oil exploration activities in the northern part of the country.

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Group Managing Director of the NNPC, Mr. Maikanti Baru, who disclosed this, yesterday, when governor of Bauchi State, Mr. Mohammed Abubakar, paid him a courtesy visit in Abuja, also lamented that Nigeria was currently facing difficult times. Baru said the NNPC currently had exploration activities going on in the frontier basin in Chad and also in some areas close to the Kolmani River, located in Bauchi State, where Shell had made some indicative discovery of hydrocarbons.

According to him, the President has directed the NNPC to go into that area to improve and further explore the magnitude and prospect of those finds. In response to the directive of the President, Baru disclosed that the NNPC was currently taking steps to re-strategise and get into those regions to step up crude oil exploration activities. “We will re-invigorate the Frontier Exploration Services and see how they collaborate with the Northern Nigeria Development Company, NNDC.

‘’NNDC is holding bloc 809 where we have some of the finds and also the Department for Petroleum Resources, DPR, for the other blocs that have not been assigned,” Baru added. On the tough economic situation, Baru lamented that the various attacks on oil and gas assets across the country was making it difficult for the corporation to meet its financial obligations to the country. He said: “It is a very difficult time for us with all the leakages that we suffer, especially infractions on our infrastructure, in terms of pipeline vandalism and theft to be able to meet our obligations to the Federation Account Allocation Committee, FAAC.

Facebook Moves One Step Closer to Light-Based Wireless Communication



The internet is often called the “World Wide Web,” but it’s not actually accessible to residents of a large portion of the world. Today, four billion people are offline, and 1.6 billion of them live in sparsely populated areas around the world.

In recent years, a race to solve that problem has emerged among big tech companies like Google, SpaceX and Facebook. Now, Facebook has published research on an unconventional solution: using light to wirelessly transmit internet signals. The work comes from a Facebook-led initiative called Internet.org, which, according to the initiative's website, has so far brought internet access to more than 25 million people.

Most internet signals today are transmitted at high rates through wired optical fiber networks — which require expensive infrastructure — or at lower rates through wireless radio frequencies, which are limited in bandwidth, subject to regulations and vulnerable to interception.

In a paper published Tuesday in Optica, researchers from Internet.org’s Connectivity Lab have outlined a new type of light detector that can be used for free-space optical communication, a communication technique that uses light to send data wirelessly.

“It’s a completely new design,” said Julian Cheng, a communications engineer at the University of British Columbia who was not involved in the study. With a device that’s simpler than traditional light receivers, he said, the Facebook team was able to achieve wireless data rates on the order of wired systems.

Free-space optical communication works by encoding communication signals in laser beams. Transmitters on the ground or in satellites shoot that light through the air to receivers that can decode the data. (To understand this on simple terms, think of encoding and sending information through morse code using a flashlight.)

One longstanding obstacle to free-space optical communication is a trade-off between speed and size. To increase the number of laser signals hitting a receiver, one can increase the size of the receiver. But doing so makes the receiver slower.

Instead, many free-space optical communication systems use smaller receivers with complex pointing and tracking systems. Because laser beams are narrow and travel in straight lines from point A to point B, these receivers have to continuously maneuver to catch laser beams head-on.

Imagine trying to water a small potted plant with a water gun from different angles, said Alan Willner, an optical communications scientist at the University of Southern California and president of the Optical Society, the professional society that published Internet.org’s paper. To maximize the amount of water you catch, you have to constantly move the pot around.

The Facebook researchers’ solution to this problem is a light detector that doesn’t need pointing and tracking, but still allows for fast transmission. To do this, they took advantage of fluorescence, the process of absorbing light and re-emitting it at a lower energy.

Facebook’s detector contains a spherical bundle of special fluorescent fibers. The bundle, somewhere between the size of a golf ball and tennis ball, is able to absorb blue laser light from any direction and re-emit it as green light. Because that green light is diffuse, it can then be funneled to a small receiver that converts the light back to data.

In our hypothetical example, imagine that instead of a water gun, you’re pointing a blow dart gun at a water balloon attached to a funnel over the potted plant. As soon as you hit the balloon, it pops and releases water. With the addition of the balloon, you’ve eliminated the need to move the pot around. You can shoot at the water balloon from any direction, and the plant will get watered.

Facebook’s new detector is able to achieve fast data rates of two gigabits per second — several orders of magnitude higher than those from radio frequencies — because light has a higher frequency than radio waves, and because the fluorescence process is fast. Free-space optical communication can also carry more information than radio communication, and is more secure because narrow laser beams are harder to intercept than wide radio waves.

Because of all these benefits, building on Facebook’s proof of concept holds tremendous potential not just for remote areas, but for meeting increased data demand all over the world, said Kamran Kiasaleh, an optical communications scientist at the University of Texas at Dallas who was not involved in the study.

The technology fits in with Facebook’s plans to beam internet access down from the skies using drones. With laser transmitters and arrays of these light detectors, drones could exchange data with one another and with ground stations. Indoors, these detectors could provide high data rates to mobile devices.

For now, the new light detector is still in early stages, said Tobias Tiecke, a communication systems scientist at Facebook and a co-author of the new paper. His team built their current device using off-the-shelf materials that are used for harvesting solar light.

“The performance of our system can still be increased much further by developing materials tailored for communication,” he said.

Monday, 25 July 2016

Adele kisses Nigerian fan on stage..

It was a most rewarding gesture to a Nigerian fan who travelled all the way from Nigeria to see his music model perform live on stage. It came as a surprise when the English singer and songwriter, Adele Laurie Blue Adkins, popularly called, Adele, suddenly kissed him on stage and later said to him, “thanks for the kiss!” then laughed as the concert-goer got down on one knee in a mock proposal. She then added: “I love you too, thank you for coming to my show.”

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It all happened when the Hello singer brought her fan up to the stage and was chatting with him when he revealed that he had travelled all the way from Nigeria. Touched, Adele went to kiss him on the cheek then burst out laughing after accidentally hitting his mouth. She then announced to the audience: “he just snogged me!” before taking a selfie with the delighted fan, while equally joking about the make of his phone as the audience cheered.

Benue Community Invaded by Herdsmen, 14 killed

NO fewer than 14 persons were killed on Monday, in an attack on Gaambe-Tiev, Logo Local Government Area of Benue State, by rampaging herdsmen, despite efforts by several parties to halt the unending invasion of Benue communities.

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Vanguard learned that the invaders stormed the community at about 7:30a.m., shooting sporadically and razing buildings and farmland in the area.


According to an eyewitness, the invaders successfully razed several homes, killed and injured most of the victims at Adeyohor village along Uwer-Gov Sevav Road. He said: “The herdsmen, in their usual fashion, stormed Gaambe-Tiev this morning (yesterday), around 7:30a.m. in their numbers, shooting sporadically and shouting. The people never expected it.


“Everybody, including women and children, ran for their lives. Unfortunately, several persons lost their lives and many more were injured. Bodies of some of those killed are being recovered from the farms and we are still counting.” Reacting, member of the state House of Assembly representing Logo constituency, Dr. Kester Kyenge, who confirmed the latest attack, said the number of the dead could be far more than the 14 being circulated.


He said: “By tomorrow (today), we will have a clearer picture of the number of the dead. I plead with the government to act fast to stop these attacks and killings.” Contacted, Benue State Police Public Relations Officer, Assistant Superintendent Moses Yamu, said he was yet to be briefed on the matter.
NO fewer than 14 persons were killed on Monday, in an attack on Gaambe-Tiev, Logo Local Government Area of Benue State, by rampaging herdsmen, despite efforts by several parties to halt the unending invasion of Benue communities.

Read more at: http://www.vanguardngr.com/2016/07/herdsmen-invade-benue-community-kill-14/
NO fewer than 14 persons were killed on Monday, in an attack on Gaambe-Tiev, Logo Local Government Area of Benue State, by rampaging herdsmen, despite efforts by several parties to halt the unending invasion of Benue communities.

Read more at: http://www.vanguardngr.com/2016/07/herdsmen-invade-benue-community-kill-14/

Tuesday, 31 May 2016

#Bring back the other girls


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 Interestingly, there are people who think the publicised May 17  rescue of one of the over 200 Chibok schoolgirls abducted by Boko Haram terrorists may well be a stunt to credit the President Muhammadu Buhari administration with an important achievement ahead of its first anniversary on May 29. These doubters provide a significant sign of the government’s public rating close to a year after the wind of change that blew the Goodluck Jonathan administration out of power.

This thinking that the Buhari government may have stage-managed the report of teenager Amina Ali’s return amounts to not only a discredit to the government’s credibility, but also a dishonour to Buhari’s advertised integrity. It is food for thought that things have come to such a pass, considering the high public optimism that greeted Buhari’s ascendancy.

It is clarifying that news of Amina’s rescue was corroborated by Chibok Girls Parents Association Chairman Yakubu Nkeki, and the spokesperson of the #BringBackOurGirls (#BBOG) advocacy group, Sesugh Akume.

It is enlightening that Presidential Villa watcher Olalekan Adetayo in a report captured what he called “A presidential treatment for a rescued captive”: “A presidential jet was sent to Borno State to bring her. She came with her mother, her brother and her baby. She arrived the Villa in a convoy of vehicles under tight security. She was driven straight to the forecourt of the President’s office through the Service Chiefs’ Gate. Only privileged few persons are driven through the gate that is reserved for the high and mighty.”

Adetayo also reported: “Amina… was accompanied by the Borno State Governor, Alhaji Kashim Shettima; the Minister of Defence, Mansur Dan Ali; the National Security Adviser, Babangana Monguno; and the Chief of Defence Staff, Gabriel Olonishakin, among other top government officials.”

Buhari perhaps needed the photo opportunity more than Amina. Pictures of the President carrying Safiya, Amina’s baby girl, helped to project a powerful message about state capacity. It is noteworthy that the latest official information indicated that the military had recaptured 20 villages from the Islamist terrorists in 22 days under Operation Crackdown, and had rescued 150 civilians, including Amina.

 

Although Buhari spoke with reassuring optimism on the possibility of bringing back the schoolgirls abducted in Chibok, Borno State, over two years ago, there is no question that it will take more than positive thinking and expression of hope to get the girls back. “Amina’s rescue gives us new hope and offers a unique opportunity to vital information,” Buhari said.  Borno State Governor Shettima sang the same tune, saying, “… 218 girls are not accounted for, but a journey of a thousand miles starts with a single step, the recovery of Amina Ali, is a sign of greater things to come…”

Apart from Amina’s case, the question concerning the fate of the victims of the outrageous kidnap of April 14, 2014, remains tragically unanswered. Out of the 276 seized students of the Girls Senior Secondary School, Chibok, 57 managed to escape. It is a cause for concern that only Amina has been rescued out of the remaining 219 girls, despite an international campaign that resonated across the world, involving United States First Lady Michelle Obama and Nobel Peace Prize winner Malala Yousafzai.


Lamentably, the strident demand for action, particularly political action by the political authorities, which was formulated as #BringBackOurGirls, has not yielded any significant progress in locating and returning the girls. This amounts to governmental failure.


Indeed, the unresolved kidnappings call for political will and fresh creative approaches.  As things stand, there is a seeming paralysis that hinders the desired action to get the girls back. In this matter, the government of the day must demonstrate that it is conscious of its institutional and moral responsibilities.


Notwithstanding initial footdragging by the Jonathan administration that was in power when the terrorists struck in Chibok, and the associated complications, President Buhari must rise to the challenge.


It is heart-warming that Buhari said: “Although we cannot do anything to reverse the horrors of her past, the Federal Government can and will do everything possible to ensure that the rest of her life takes a completely different course. Amina will get the best care that the Nigerian government can afford. We will ensure that she gets the best medical, emotional and whatever care that she requires to get full recovery and be integrated into the society.” This is a promise that must be kept.


Importantly, the occasion also yielded what may be considered as a policy position on girl-child education. It was positive that Buhari made a fundamental assertion: “The continuation of Amina’s education so abruptly disrupted will definitely be a priority of the Federal Government. Amina must be able to go back to school. Nobody in Nigeria should be put through the brutality of forced marriage. Every girl has a right to education and their choice of life.” Buhari should take a further step on this issue by officially intensifying the promotion of girl-child education and discouraging forced marriage across the country.

 
This is where Mohammed Hayatu comes in. He is the suspected Boko Haram terrorist who was found with Amina and who claimed to be her husband. Lagos activist lawyer Femi Falana (SAN) was helpful in defining Hayatu’s status. Falana argued: “The captured terrorist who was arrested with Amina is not her husband but an abductor and a rapist. The media should therefore desist from further referring to the criminal suspect as the husband of the girl…The Attorney-General of Borno State should proceed to charge the terrorist with abduction and slavery, torture and rape without any further delay.”

 
It is a thought-provoking irony that Baby Safiya bears a name that is contradicted by the circumstances of her birth. Safiya is a Muslim name meaning “pure”. The terrorism that resulted in Amina’s abduction and her subsequent violation by an alleged member of a violent group was not a reflection of purity. It is equally important to protect this baby from possible stigma, and help her to rise above the unfortunate context of her birth.

The celebration of Amina’s rescue and return is not inappropriate. But the other Chibok girls still missing deserve to be brought back too.

Thursday, 19 May 2016

Five-year jail term for lecturers who sexually molest students if…

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Lecturers that engage in sexual relationship with students would henceforth bag a five-year jail term if a bill in the Senate, seeking to completely prohibit any form of sexual relationship between them and their students is passed and assented to by President Muhammadu Buhari. The bill on Wednesday, passed for first reading in the Senate.

The bill, sponsored by Sen. Ovie Omo-Agege (Labour-Delta Central) and co-sponsored by 46 other senators, seeks to completely prohibit any form of sexual relationship between lecturers and their students, the News Agency of Nigeria (NAN) reports. Briefing journalists after plenary, Omo-Agege said the nation’s institutions of higher learning must be sanitised to rid them of lecturers who saw female students as “prize’.” According to him, when the bill is passed and signed into law, any lecturer found guilty will be liable to a jail term of up to five years but not less than two years with no option of fine.

“When passed into law, it makes it a criminal offence for any educator in a university, polytechnic or any other tertiary educational institution to violate or exploit the student-lecturer fiduciary relationship for sexual pleasures. “The bill imposes stiff penalties on offenders in its overall objective of providing tighter statutory protection for students against sexual hostility and all forms of sexual harassment in tertiary schools. “The bill provides a compulsory five-year jail term for lecturers who sexually harass students.

“When passed into law, vice chancellors of universities, rectors of polytechnics and other chief executives of institutions of higher learning will go to jail for two years if they fail to act within a week on complaints of sexual harassment made by students. “The bill expressly allows sexually harassed students, their parents or guardians to seek civil remedies in damages against sexual predator lecturers before or after their successful criminal prosecution by the state,” Omo- Agege said.

Friday, 13 May 2016

Lol..!! Police detain men for eating late, demand N15,000 bribe

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 The Surulere Police Division, Lagos State, on Tuesday arrested four men, who were accused of eating late in the night around the Ojuelegba Bridge in the Surulere area.
Our correspondent learnt that the suspects – one of them identified as Sango Svengali – were eating noodles at a shop on Ogunlana Drive around 11pm, when the policemen, said to be about eight, rounded them up.

The policemen, who reportedly brought three vans, were said to have accused the men of eating late and queried why they did not eat in their houses.
It was learnt that the suspects were subsequently whisked away to the Area C Command, Surulere.

It was learnt that the policemen at the counter allegedly demanded N15,000 ‘settlement’ from the men, threatening that they would sleep in the cell overnight if they failed to settle.
Our correspondent gathered that Svengali and his friends, who were not made to write any statement, offered N5,000 but the policemen refused.

Our correspondent learnt that on Wednesday, the suspects were brought before the area commander, who noted that they resembled Boko Haram members, ordering them to shave their beards.
Speaking with PUNCH Metro on Thursday after regaining his freedom, Svengali said the policemen did not ask any of them for identification before forcing them into their vans.
He said, “I had a stressful day at work on Tuesday. There was a lot of traffic. Instead of going home through the Third Mainland Bridge, I decided to spend the night at a friend’s place in Ojuelegba. Some other friends came to my friend’s place. Later, around 11pm, we were hungry and we decided to go down the road to buy noodles.

“The Mai shai are basically night-food people. So we knew they would still be selling food. We drove to Ogunlana Drive and saw a woman selling noodles by the roadside. The three of us decided to buy noodles and eat. We sat on the trunk of the two cars we brought and ate the food. As we were about to go, three police vans stopped by our vehicles. There were about eight policemen in the vans.
“The policemen dragged me into one of their vans. I was confused and wanted to resist. But when I saw the young man selling recharge cards beside the woman being slapped several times, I knew it was useless resisting. The policemen did not ask us any question. They did not ask us to identify ourselves.”

Svengali added that when they got to the station, they met eight others who had been arrested.
He said, “While in the van, the policemen sitting beside me collected my phone and started searching through it. He checked through my electronic mail, and when he did not find anything, he said, ‘Sometimes you go dey pray say you no dey road when devil dey pass.’ He added that we would ‘sort it out’ at the station.

“As we moved on, I noticed that my other friends – except one – were in the other vans. When we got to the station, we found that eight people had been picked up too. The policemen at the station said, ‘Why una no chop for house?’ One of my friends started negotiating for us at the counter. The policemen said they wanted N15,000 to let three of us go. He was begging them to take N5,000. They refused.

“The cell stank like a gutter. There were about 18 of us  there. We endured the stench till morning. When it was around 7am, we were brought before the area commander. We were lined up like criminals. He said our misdeed was that we ate at an unholy hour. He said we looked like fanatics and Boko Haram members.

“He ordered them to lock us up again. After some time, some of our friends came, one of them is a lawyer. He spoke to the area commander. He said the only way to release us was to shave our beards. The police bought shaving sticks and made us shave at the counter. I was so embarrassed. All this while, we never wrote any statement. We were not accused of anything. When I finally left, it was some minutes before 10am.”

Our correspondent learnt that one of the suspects communicated with the Complaints Response Unit, Abuja, through Twitter, to report the alleged bribe the policemen demanded.
 The Lagos State Police Public Relations Officer, SP Dolapo Badmos, had yet to reply to a text message sent to her phone on the incident.

The Head of the CRU, Force Headquarters, Abuja, CSP Abayomi Shogunle, however, replied on Twitter that a team of policemen had gone to the police station to ascertain the claim of the complainants.

He said, “A special monitoring team from the Force Headquarters on nationwide patrol is at the police station in Ojuelegba to verify this report. The complaint is acknowledged and the tracking number is CRU 359117.”

Moves that will leave him begging for mercy every night!

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THE cliche of the frigid wife who doesn’t want sex has been replaced by a new reality—women who are married or in a committed relationship want to be having more sex. So how does a woman in love bring the passion back into her relationship? According to Dr. Phill McGraw, a renowned sociologist: “Figuring out what you can do differently is the most efficient way to get the sex life you want.” He along with some experts then proceed to list some moves that will leave your man begging for mercy tonight and every night hereafter. Here in a nutshells is what they suggested:

 First, do a little thinking:

If you want your sex life improve, start by diagnosing the problem. Examine your life: Are you so busy that it’s impossible for the two of you to be sexually intimate on a regular basis? Have you gotten out of the habit because sex is incompatible with all your other obligations?

Days turn into weeks and weeks turn into months, and before you know it you can’t remember the last time you made love. Sex is a pattern, and unless it happens on an ongoing basis, other things will crowd it. Use it or lose it.

Try to trace the pattern back in time and figure out how sex got moved down thepriority list. Was it when you started having kids? One of the biggest mistakesthat couples make is that they stop being friends and lovers because they’vebecome moms and dads. It is a mental shift; all of a sudden, being a romanticpartner is no longer important. It is like we decide, ‘Adolescence is over. I’m amother or a father now, and I have to act like one.’ Add to that the time andenergy required in raising children, and sexually, the cards are stacked againstyou. But being a parent is just one of the roles we play, and neglecting the roleof partner and lover is a huge error.

Now ask yourself:

“What might I be doing —or not doing— to contribute to the situation? And what can I do to change things?’ Back when there was passion in your relationship, were you taking more pride in the way you looked? For better for worse, men are responsive to visual stimulation. You can be oblivious to that fact. You may need to make some small changes in your appearance, like getting rid of old sweat pants, cutting your hair, or losing the weight you’ve been, complaining about for years. None of this is to say that his worn-out sweatshirts protruding gut are a turn-on.

But it goes back to one of life’s law: You create your own experience — so get started. You may want affirmation from him— that you look beautiful, that your haircut is flattering, whatever it may be. There’ s no guarantee you’re going to get it, which is why you have to decide within yourself that you are making the most of who you are and what you have to offer. Give yourself credit for that and find security in it, even if it’s not externally validated. And indeed, your self-image is crucial. Say to yourself, ‘I’m not just a memory, I’m a hot number.’ And then act like it. Talk yourself into it. Instead of waking up thinking about how many dirty diapers you’re going to change that day, tell yourself, “I am going to seduce my husband today. Try spending less time coming up with a plan to avoid traffic on your way to work and more time figuring out how you’re going to inspire your lover. As a starting point, think back to when you and your partner were having sex more often and enjoying it. Remember what worked at that time in your life, and replicate those things. Have a conversation with yourself.

Give yourself permission to get what you want. Claim your right, and give a voice to your needs. Being sexually satisfied and feeling wanted by your partner are legitimate and healthy parts of a relationship

Next, bring him in on it:

Once you’ve thought about what is lacking, wherethe problem lies and what role you play in it, you need to talk to him about it; hecannot read your mind. How do you tell someone you’re not satisfied with thesex life you share? Very carefully. It’s important to come at this straight. Youneed to sit down together and mutually recognise: “our physical intimacy hasn’tbeen there lately. We may have gotten distracted or allowed to many other thingsto absorb all our energy.” You are acknowledging, as a couple, that you’ve gottenout of the habit of focusing on each other romantically and that you want to makesex part of your lives again. Now let’s talk about timing. The time to raise the issue is not during a marital crisis. Your needs may be valid, but he’ll resist you if you include it in a litany of complaints or bring it up in the middle of an argument. Getting defensive or figuring out who’s to blame won’t get you very far either.

If you’d rather argue about whose fault it is and try to convince your husband for falling asleep with the remote in his hand night after night, then I ask you: Do you want to be right, or do you want to get more loving? But what if he doesn’t want to talk about it? There maybe underlying issues that are manifesting in the sexual domain—problems that absolutely have nothing to do with you. It’s so easy to feel hurt or disappointed if he’s not initiating sex, but don’t take it personally. His struggle with intimacy may be as a result of too much stress in the office. When the pressure is on, we tend to strip away what we actually need most: Sleep, comfort, companionships—and sex. Is he depressed? Could medication be diminishing his sex drive? Also, men tend to measure their self-worth as a function of external circumstances. He may feel like less of a man if he doesn’t have a job, for example, or even after something like heart surgery. Take a look at situations that may be affecting him, and how you can help. Would bringing a different passion (sports, a hobby) back into his life lead to a more excitement in the bedroom? The two of you need to talk about what is going on. But if he’s reluctant to be open about it, encourage him to at least look inside. Suggest that he ask himself what might be killing the deal for him. If you can find the source of the problems, you can tailor your intimacy to meet his needs, and yours. And if all else fails, try to convince him that one session of couple counselling is the key to getting your feelings out in the open and starting to make changes.Now share the heavy lifting: Carve out time for lovemaking. Yes, it takes away spontaneity when you have to pencil in sex, but at least you’ll be having it! After you do, you’ll say: “Now I remember why this was so much fun. Now I get why we used to do it all the time.” Then you’ll build the momentum to keep it going more spontaneously. It’s about behaving your way to success, and the first thing you need to do is get back in the saddle. Experts agree that an important element of sexual arousal is fantasy. And yet we so easily get into a pattern where we’re just not fanciful or intriguing sexually. Some people feel shame or fear when it comes to asking for what they want. Speaking candidly with your partner about your desires doesn’t make you perverted or kinky.

Create an environment of acceptance and openness by agreeing in advance that you can say anything. If you have a hard time verbalising your desires, give yourself permission to explore each other’s fantasies any way you can. Write your partner a letter, or simply envision what it is that you want as you’re having sex. Don’t be judgemental about this. There’s nothing wrong with spicing up your sex life with some variety. And by variety, it doesn’t mean different people. Try a different place in the house, a different time, on a different position. Discover your partner’s fantasy and be willing to play the game. Be specific about what you want and careful about how you phrase your desires. Your conversation shouldn’t start with “you don’t do this” or “you aren’t interested in that.” What you should say instead is “I want this” and “I’m interested in that.” If he’s quick from penetration to orgasm—which all men are, physiologically compared to women— you have to make sure there’s plenty of foreplay taking place before the actual penetration. And you have to be able to talk about it. Educate your husband so you understand each other’s needs.

Now the budget is here, what next

Budget 2016:  President Buhari , Vice President Yemi Osinbajo,  with others during the  signing of the 2016 budget into Law on 6th May ,2016.

Finally the 2016 budget controversy is over with the signing of the Appropriation Bill into law by President Muhammadu Buhari last weekend after a four-month delay. With the budget in place, the fiscal policy and plans of the administration are now up and running along with the traditional complementary role it plays with monetary policy in economic stability and development. The prolonged lack of fiscal policy direction is accentuated by a harsh business climate in the country with a huge cost to the economy.

Only last week the National Bureau of Statistics (NBS) reported that in the first quarter of 2016, the economy recorded a 73.39% year-on-year decline in capital imports to USD710.97 million, particularly as foreign direct investment decreased by 55.97% to USD173.73 million. There was also 82.30% year-on-year plunge in portfolio investment to USD201.69 million. Last week also, the Central Bank of Nigeria (CBN) published the Purchasing Managers’ Survey results for April 2016, which showed worsening contractions in both the manufacturing and non-manufacturing sectors. All these come against the backdrop of rising inflation which, had surpassed the CBN’s single-digit red line of 9.6% to peak at 12.8% in March 2016 with April readings forecast to be out next week at over 13%, the highest in several years.

The Naira value has seen its worse position in the first quarter of this year at the rate of N322/ USD1.0 in the open market segment. And the lead indicator – the gross domestic product – (GDP) which has seen one of the worst positions in recent years, is predicted to be worse than the low level 2.1% recorded in the fourth quarter of 2015. All these point to worsening standards of living for an average Nigerian who had expected so much from the new administration that assumed power a year ago. The key thrust of the budget is reflating the economy through bullish capital expenditure and investments. This is a needful bailout, and we applaud it. We believe that the huge financial injection into the economy and the vote for the most vulnerable will boost the purchasing power of the people.

On the macro-economic front, the government in conjunction with CBN, should plan to achieve an appropriate and predictable exchange rate regime by the end of 2016 without necessarily effecting a de-facto devaluation of the local currency. It is important that a harmony of fiscal and monetary policies should be in place to address and achieve low (single digit) interest rates for the real sector while containing inflation rate also at a single digit. Rapid implementation of the capital component of the budget could generate enough impulse to effectively lift aggregate demand in the medium term, thus raising the GDP.

Tuesday, 10 May 2016

Social media platforms: Marriage makers or breakers?

 
It all started with posts and accusations on Instagram and later snowballed to counter accusations, as well as an interview that went viral online.
The current challenge is not the first of its kind that Tiwa Savage and Tunji Balogun or any other celebrity couple would face. The difference, in this case, is Tiwa’s celebrity status and the nature of the conflict. It has made the issue an Internet sensation. And this is understandable as the news tops the list of items that people find online.

Nigerian Internet users are ruthless and they react to anything. There is no marriage that is immune to challenges. What the current generation of couples need to do is to ensure that they do not become casualties of social media marriages.
For those who think women are usually the first to run to social media, last week’s sad event proves that it could be the other way round. It is wrong to think that women are the only ones that go on social media to share a secret about their marriage or relationship.
 
There is a new research that says that out of every 100 divorce cases, 33 are partly caused by Facebook. Because of the social nature of several social media platforms, breaking ties with the past may be near impossible. In some instances, it is about the refusal to keep quiet and privately sort issues out. Nothing good is likely going to come out of a relationship where the man or woman goes online to cast aspersions on his or her partner, either directly or otherwise. Even where that is not the intention, the hurting party will read a different meaning to every status update and comment.
 
Apart from last week’s event, what the world has seen clearly of late is that social media platforms are gradually playing a role in increasing mistrust and disputes in many homes. Couples need to be careful and always do a quick self-assessment to see if the number of hours they spend on social media is not in competition with efforts to build strong offline relationships with their spouses. No one loves to be ignored, especially when it is coming from someone who is supposed to be one’s wife or husband.
 
 One of the golden rules is never to engage in conversation with your spouse on social media. Why not say it directly to him or her without bringing the online crowd along. If you would rather write about the issue, send an email.
 
 Several cases of hurts have arisen from social media. It is said that on social media, people simply act. If you choose to come online to engage with your partner, either by a demonstration of love or any other amorous affection, like many people are wont to do on birthdays and other special commemorations, it is important that you display similar affection offline. Otherwise, it will amount to mere acting for public amusement.
 
 I subscribe to the school of thought that says couples should be able to handle each other’s mobile phones or other Internet-connect devices. It is a way of being accountable to each other. I also reckon that it is an avenue for a partner to be kept in the known of what the other is doing online, especially since there is a tendency to forget about giving briefs on what happened during the day. However, there may be boundaries, which must not border on secrecy.
 
There is a couple that made a baby by sending messages to the printer and the child came out through the same means. It is a subtle way of explaining how couples are so consumed by their mobile phones at the expense of real-life communication. It is important to have rules about keeping mobile phones away. Relationships are built based on the number of hours spent with each other. Physical communication is vital.
 
When the hours are spent instead with someone else then a new relationship is being built at the expense of your marriage. Some individuals agree that the best way around this is to change their mobile lines. They reason that it helps to halt existing relationships with ex-partners and to check the chances of re-igniting a former relationship.
 
Marriage counsellors need to take note of the new trend. Also, it is important that they counsel the new generation on their online activities.
Clearly, marriage should not be left at the mercy of WhatsApp, Facebook, Instagram and ‘like’ buttons.
 
However, it is clear that social media platforms are not the major problem. The challenge is how people use the platforms. They can either make or break relationships.
In all, the humane thing to do is to wish Tiwa and Tunji well in these trying times.

Financial slump: Sex workers cut charges, tempt men in Paradise City

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THE economic recession has struck the sex market in Paradise City, Calabar, capital of Cross River State, forcing working girls to slash their charges to an all-time low of N400 per insertion and N1, 500 – N2, 000 per night for home service due to diminishing patronage. An operator of one of the hot red light zones in the city, Madam Becky (not real name), who spoke in Pidgin English, told Niger Delta Voice since February, the girls have been complaining of “bad market.”

“Why you dey ask me all this kind JAMB question sef, u sure say u no be police? Na because you buy me drinks, wetin I fit tell be say Buhari government no favour us at all, if na before, u no go see girl plenty like that for here, except say Ekelebe people dey disturb. We dey settle them well well, but since February, the business don bad well well,” she lamented. At some of the brothels and spots in Calabar South visited by this reporter, the story was the same. A street walker, Princess, who spoke to our reporter after much haggle, purchase of a bottle of beer and food for her, said: “I finished My WAEC before I joined this runs oo, my father died that same year and my mother is not too strong to take care of all of us.” “My father’s people accused our mother of our father’s death, so life has indeed being difficult. I actually came to Calabar in November 2015. I am from Orlu in Imo state but I started this business in Owerri before I moved to a joint in Obiagu in Enugu. Then for a change of environment, I decided to come to Calabar , last year, because I heard that there is usually a boom during the Calabar Carnival and I witnessed it, but things started changing around February,” she said. According to her: “We used to collect a minimum of N500 naira for a round of sex but it started going down after that Valentine celebration. My customers in a day before used to be between 20 –35 when business was good, but as I am talking to you, my highest in a day is no longer up to 18 or 20 when there is a boom.” “Upon say I be slim-fit, the only time we have business now is when they pay salaries, during festivities and public holidays,” she asserted.

At a spot on Lugard Street, one of the call girls accosted our reporter, saying, “No be N500 again oo, Buhari don make us bring down the price, port one and get one free “ she said. “If you want home service, just tell me na only 2k I go collect but you go buy be drink and suya ooo with Indomie, but if you want sharp sharp, na N500 I go collect for one round ooo, “ she added. According to her, “We just dey manage to survive, wetin man pikin go do, people no dey patronize us like before again, de only hope wey we get some time na some of our regular customers and during some weekends and holidays, but we nor get choice than to reduce wetin we dey charge before.” she asserted.


Wednesday, 27 April 2016

4 signs you are a true Lagosian


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Lagos is, without a doubt, the most popular city in Nigeria and possibly Africa. Not only is it cosmopolitan and all-encompassing, it offers countless opportunities to its inhabitants as well as visitors. The city literally adopts thousands of new residents each year and so it has become a daunting task identifying who the real Lagosians are. 

 Let’s face it, while you may need to have spent a reasonable time living in Lagos, you do not have to be an indigene of the state to be considered a proper Lagosian. There are certain signs that generally suggests that you have shed your “newbie” status and you are officially a true “son of the soil”. Jovago.com, Africa’s No.1 online hotel booking portal lists five of these signs.

You do not refer to the state as “Lagos” Real Lagosians do not refer to the city as ‘Lagos’, a majority use the term “Eko” while the young and trendy use the term “Lasgidi”. If you hear any real Lagosian make reference to “Lagos”, they are most likely talking about the Victoria Island part of the State.

You are always vigilant and in a hurry. Real Lagosians understand the need to always stay sharp and move fast, and it has become second nature to them.

You will never catch a true Lagosian keeping his or her things carelessly in public places or walking sluggishly on the streets, especially crowded streets.  A Lagos commercial bus popularly called DANFO 
A Lagos commercial bus popularly called DANFO

The term “owambe” brings you joy. Lagosians love to party and so they find opportunities to make merry. Weekends are basically set aside for owambes…even if Friday nights are spent in one of the many nightclubs and lounges around the city. You can walk, eat, talk on the phone and hop on a bus, all at the same time This happens all the time in Lagos. Every true Lagosian operates with the mantra ‘time waits for no man’, so they have learnt tricks and ways to juggle different activities at the same time.

My husband married me with charm, woman tells court

A 39-year-old food vendor, Adejoke Omotosho, on Wednesday told an Igando Customary, Lagos, to dissolve her 16-year-old marriage to her husband, Musili, for allegedly marrying her with charm. “When I was single, my husband approached me that he wanted to marry me, I told him that I had a fiancé and that our marriage was near. “Musili came back the following day and touched me, I don’t know how I got to his village, and I started having babies. “As an orphan, nobody looked for me but now I am back to my senses,’’ she said.

The petitioner accused her husband of infidelity that he was in the habit of bringing his lovers to their one-room apartment to spend days or months before leaving. “I always leave the bed for them and sleep on the floor, on four occasions I had reported him to our families. “Recently, he came home with a lady who stole my pants and brassier, I discovered that after she had left. “I told my husband to retrieve my underwear from his lover, he later came home with a bra and pant but those were not the underwear that was missing,’’ she said. The mother of four boys said that her husband was always threatening her life. “My husband is threatening to kill me, my hair dresser informed me that anytime I finished making my hair that my husband always come begging her to give him my hair. “And he always tell me that if I leave him that he will kill me and run away,’’ she said.

She said that she was the one responsible for feeding the family, paying the house rent and the children’s school fees. She begged the court to dissolve the union, that she was scared of contracting sexually transmitted diseases from her husband due to his unfaithfulness. Musiliu, 47, a bricklayer, in his response denied all the allegations. “I pay my bills, I usually give her N500 per day, but she also assists me as any good wife will do. Musiliu said that he had returned the under wears his lover took away from their house. He said that he never approached his wife’s hairdresser requesting for her hair. The respondent begged the court to help him appeal to his wife that he still loves her.

Court jails man 2 months for stealing chewing gum

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A Kado Grade 1 Area Court, Abuja, on Wednesday sentenced a 23-year-old car washer, Prosper Mofor to two months in prison for theft. The judge, Alhaji Abubakar Sadiq, however gave Mofor an option to pay N10, 000 fine and warned him to desist from committing crimes. He also ordered the convict to pay N30, 000 to the nominal complainant.


The convict, of Jabi Village, Abuja, was convicted for one-count charge levelled against him. Mofor prayed the court to temper justice with mercy, claiming that hunger pushed him into committing the crime. Earlier, the prosecutor, Salisu Khaleel, told the court that one Mariam Ibrahim of same address with the convict reported the matter at the Life Camp Police Station, Abuja, on March 19.


Khaleel said the convict criminally entered the complainant shop on March 18 and stole eight pieces of Orbit chewing gum valued at N1, 600 and two cans of Titus sardine valued at N300, He also told the court that Mofor stole a can of Malt drink valued at N120, and N80,000 cash. According to the prosecutor, the offence is punishable under Section 288 of the Penal Code.

People are looting everywhere and none has been sentenced yet.., ironical, isnt it?

'Arms deal scandal is $15bn and not $2.1bn' - EFCC source claims



A top official in EFCC says contrary to reports, the arms deal scandal is $15 billion not $2.1billion. Daily Trust reports that the EFCC official who spoke on condition of anonymity, said the $2.1 billion that has been linked to former National Security Adviser, Sambo Dasuki, is just one transaction out of the $15 billion arms deal fraud;


“The actual amount involved in the arms deal is $15 billion. The $2.1 billion was just one transaction out of it. Majority of the companies involved in the arms deal are owned by serving military officers. They registered these companies using the names of their cronies. Despite the fact that they returned some money, we are still going to prosecute them,” he said.

Bloodbath in Enugu as Fulani herdsmen kill 40

Fulani herdsmen

Cattle owners, not herdsmen, should be questioned—OHANAEZE By Emeka Mamah, Clifford Ndujihe, Chidi Nkwopara & Chinenyeh Ozor NSUKKA—About 40 persons have so far been reportedly killed by some Fulani herdsmen at Nimbo in Uzo- Uwani Local Government Area of Enugu State, sources told Vanguard at Nsukka Police Area Command, near the area yesterday. The incident took place barely 24 hours after stories filtered out that no fewer than 500 heavily-armed Fulani herdsmen sneaked into the community preparatory to launch an attack. About seven villages in Nimbo (Nimbo Ngwoko, Ugwuijoro, Ekwuru, Ebor, Enugu Nimbo, Umuome and Ugwuachara) were among the areas attacked.

Ten residential houses and a church, Christ Holy Church International, aka Odozi Obodo, were also said to have been burnt by the herdsmen just as vehicles and motorcycles were destroed and domestic animals killed. A young man, whose name was yet to be ascertained, was burnt inside a commuter bus belonging to one Ejima, son of a prominent man popularly called ‘Are you there’ near the Christ Holy Church, Nimbo. A victim’s story Kingsley Ezugwu, former Councillor, Nimbo Ward 2, was one of the victims of the attack. Speaking from his hospital bed in Nsukka, Ezugwu said: “I was coming out from the house when I heard the community bell ringing. I was going with a friend to know what the bell was all about, only to see about 40 Fulani herdsmen armed with sophisticated guns and machetes. “They pursued us, killed my friend and shot at me several times but missed.

They caught up with me and used machetes on me until I lost consciousness.” He said one of them later discovered that he was alive and called on the others to finish him off. They ignored him. He said he crawled until a good samaritan helped him to the hospital. Dead bodies litter hospitals Refugees: Some residents fleeing the community.

Refugees: Some residents fleeing the community. So far, six dead bodies have been recovered and deposited at Bishop Shanahan Hospital, Nsukka, while others, who sustained injuries were rushed to Royal Cross Hospital and Enugu State District Hospital, Nsukka. Meanwhile, villagers and other residents of the area were fleeing the town. It’s a national issue—OKOROCHA In its reaction to the development, the South-East Governors Forum, said what happened at Ukpabi-Nimbo is like any other national issue that deserves the understanding and cooperation of all Nigerians of goodwill to tackle. Governor Rochas Okorocha, Chairman of the Forum, speaking through his Chief Press Secretary, Sam Onwuemeodo, said: “It is a national issue that also requires national approach to resolve. “Our problem in this country is that whatever happens is given an ethnic colouration and that makes the solution to such problem somewhat difficult.” It’s failure of governance—Ohanaeze To the Secretary General of Ohanaeze, Dr. Joe Nwaorgu, the continuous killing of people across the country by herdsmen without any response from the Federal Government is a failure of governance. He said: “We are very sad and very disappointed that all over the country, not just the South-East, these killings by Fulani herdsmen have continued unabated and nothing concrete is being done by the Federal Government.

“The first act of governance is protection of lives and property. It is complete failure of governance. There has been no response from the Federal Government and this is allowing the Fulani herdsmen to continue the killing spree. “Everybody is worried about the poor attitude of the Federal Government to this massacre across the country. Boko Haram is operating in the North-East and Fulani herdsmen are killing people all over the country. It is not the herdsmen that should be held responsible, but owners of the cattle. “The herdsmen are under the instruction of highly-placed Fulani people who own the cattle. They are heavily armed. How many cows can the herdsmen buy? Federal Government should stop this nonsense before it causes a catastrophe.” Meanwhile, police sources said it would be difficult to say the actual number of those killed, even as the killing is spreading to other parts of the local government. Similarly, member representing Uzo-Uwani constituency at the Enugu State House of Assembly, John Ukuta, said: “I am shocked that this has happened to my people.

 It is disturbing to learn that security men that were earlier assigned to ward off the rampaging herdsmen disappeared few minutes before they struck only to re-appear after they completed their horrifying assignment. “This situation has become a national epidemic. People are leaving their communities in droves. Security agencies should move in now.” Victims The bodies of those recovered included that of an old man of about 85, and another young man whose throat was slit. One of the victims, who was simply identified as Mr. Ajogwu, father of the former Councillor for Nimbo Ward 1, Sunday Ajogwu, had his left hand severed. Another one had his stomach ripped open, spilling his intestines. Traditional rulers lament The traditional ruler of Nimbo, Igwe John Akor, told Vanguard on telephone that the attackers struck at about 7a.m. when they had left for their farms. He said: “Most of those who were killed died in the early hours of the morning. We are still counting our losses. We have not started going into the farms and bushes to look for our dead brothers and sisters. “When the situation becomes very calm, we will start looking for the rest of the victims. For now, our prayer is that the Federal Government sends security men to restore peace.” Also reacting, the traditional ruler of Abbi community, Eze Fidelis Igwe, complained that his community had over the years suffered untold hardship in the hands of Fulani herdsmen, who he accused of maiming and gang-raping “our women at farmlands” in addition to robbing and kidnapping his people or stealing and destroying cash crops in the community.

He said: “This is the fourth time Fulani herdsmen have invaded our community in three years. The losses are too much for us to bear. “The remaining people of the community have now taken refuge in neighbouring communities due to fear of another invasion by the herdsmen who do not give signs before striking. “We have made several appeal to the Police, Uzo-Uwani Local Government and Enugu State government demanding for the Fulani herdsmen to leave our community, but nothing has happened.” In his reaction, Igwe Herbert Ukuta of Igga in Uzo Uwani said: “I am appealing to the state government and the Commissioner of Police to send some detachment of police and military personnel to secure the lives of Igga community where I come from. “The Fulani herdsmen had earlier threatened that Igga community is among the areas they will attack. “They have now attacked Nimbo, which is among the areas they vowed to attack. Others are Echenwo and Abbi. Already, the people of other communities are fleeing their homes over fear of the herdsmen attack.” Already, the Enugu State Police Commissioner, Ekechukwu Nwodibo, had visited the troubled community with the Area Commander for Nsukka, Monday Kuryasi, among other top police officers. ‘They evacuated their cattle’ The Fulani herdsmen had vacated the area with their cattle in the early hours of Saturday, before the attackers, who reportedly came from Nasarawa State, struck. There had been anxiety in Nimbo following reports that about 500 Fulani herdsmen were assembling to attack the area. It was gathered that fellow Fulani herdsmen at Adani had, at the weekend, imported about 500 others from Nasarawa State to help them invade Nimbo community on the grounds that some of their cattle were missing in the area.

Stakeholders’ wasted efforts However, as a result of the development, stakeholders from the local government met, weekend, in Enugu to find solution to the incessant attacks, kidnap and rape by herdsmen on communities in the local government. According to sources, Chairman of Uzo-Uwani Local Government Area, Cornell Onwubuya, had alerted Governor Ifeanyi Ugwuanyi and the state Commissioner of Police, Ekechukwu Nwodibo, of the threat. Onwubuya was said to have further alerted other stakeholders who met leaders of the Fulani community in Enugu State on the impending attack. Speaking at the emergency meeting held on Saturday, Onwubuya said the local leaders of the Fulani community also confirmed that there were attempts to bring in mercenaries to attack some communities in Uzo-Uwani, adding that the Fulani leaders in Enugu had complained that some of their people were killed within the axis of Nimbo and Abbi communities in the recent past. Fulani leader’s failed assurance At the meeting, Enugu State leader of the Fulani community, Alhaji Haldo Saidu Baso, said he had lived in Enugu State for over 33 years and would not be alive to witness the type of crisis they were talking about.

The Fulani leader said he would talk to his people not to take laws into their hands but to report disturbing issues to the traditional rulers of the communities. Vanguard learned from a native, who witnessed the gory scene that the herdsmen were armed with AK-47 rifles, and came with two buses fully loaded with arms and ammunition at about 7.13a.m. Police, Army move in Contacted, Police Public Relations Officer, Ebere Amaraizu, said: “The Commissioner, Ekechukwu Nwodibo, is in the area with a combined team of Army and Police. I can confirm there were casualties but the exact number is still what I do not know.” At press time, efforts to speak with the Local Government Chairman failed as he claimed to be at the scene of the crisis with Nwodibo and other police officers.

Jonathan calls for strengthening of democracy in Africa

 

FORMER Nigerian President, Dr. Goodluck Jonathan, at the Mayor’s office in Newark, New Jersey, yesterday, spoke to the to Friends of Africa coalition on the theme of strengthening democracy and elections and also touched on some of the legacies of his administration.


Jonathan who said real democracy would continue to flourish in Africa as long as leaders “value the process (of elections) more than the product of the process,” also argued that if the process that brought leaders to power “did not flow through the people, they naturally administered their governments to, first and foremost, serve the constituencies that brought them to power.”


The former president said he was fulfilled that during his tenure as Nigeria’s president, the nation emerged as the largest economy in Africa and the 24th largest in the world. Jonathan had, April 21, met with the CEO of Moskeeto Armor, Robin R. Crespo and his team as part of events leading up to the World Malaria Day on April 25. Moskeeto Armor manufactures clothing to protect against malaria, the zika virus, Dengue and other vector-borne diseases. Moskeeto Armor was successfully clinically field-tested in Nigeria in 2014. When worn by children as a stand alone product, Moskeeto Armor was 90 per cent effective at reducing malaria infection rate, and when combined with a bed net, the Moskeeto Armor combination was 97 per cent effective at stopping the spread of malaria.


The Goodluck Jonathan Foundation is partnering with Moskeeto Armor to protect African children against malaria and other vector-borne diseases. “The simple principle of ‘Love your neighbour as you love yourself’ lays a foundation of commitment to protecting nations,” said former President Jonathan during the meeting with Moskeeto Armor. Continuing, he said “these crises caused by such small insects, transmitting these deadly diseases, have devastated so many lives across Africa and the world, but with one just small idea, there is hope for a better tomorrow.”

Friday, 22 January 2016

The findings challenge the popular notion that when it comes to sex, the more you have the better
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Passion: Couple's are happiest when they have sex just once a week
A new study has found that couples are at their happiest when they are having sex just ONCE-a-week.
Research suggests that those who hop into bed more frequently get no noticeable benefit from it - in terms of a stable relationship.

The findings, from research conducted by the University of Toronto-Mississauga in Canada, challenge the popular notion that when it comes to sex, the more you have the better.
Scientists analysed data collected at three time points over 14 years from more than 2,400 married couples in the US.

Read more: Pensioner hunting 'dream woman' he met on bench after failing to find courage to ask for her number
Couples reported increasing satisfaction with their relationships as sexual frequency increased up to once a week. Having sex more often than that showed no noticeable benefit.
Lead researcher Dr Amy Muise, from the university, said: "Although more frequent sex is associated with greater happiness, this link was no longer significant at a frequency of more than once a week.
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Love making: Couples who have sex more than once-a-week are not necessarily happier
"Our findings suggest that it's important to maintain an intimate connection with your partner, but you don't need to have sex every day as long as you're maintaining that connection."
The study did not establish whether sex made couples happier, or whether being in a happy relationship led to more sex.

No association was found between sexual frequency and well-being in single people, said Dr Muise. The findings were specific to people in romantic relationships.

Read more: Couple die having sex in hotel hot tub after husband has heart attack and squashes wife
Once-weekly sex tended to be the typical frequency rate for established couples, according to the research published in the journal Social Psychological and Personality Science.
Dr Muise added: "Our findings were consistent for men and women, younger and older people, and couples who had been married for a few years or decades."
Another study by the same researchers suggested that sex is more strongly associated with happiness than money.

An online survey was carried out among 138 men and 197 women in long-term relationships. There was a bigger happiness difference between those having sex once a week and less than once a month than between people with higher and lower incomes.

'Broken' man discovers girlfriend is cheating on him with his own DAD after finding racy texts

He posted photos online of the message exchange, which included naked pictures


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The man claims to have looked through his dad's phone and uncovered the affair
A man has shared his heartbreak online after apparently making the discovery that his girlfriend had cheated on him - with his own father.

The anonymous male posted photographs of what he said was his dad's iPhone screen on 4chan after finding text messages he exchanged with the woman, including racy naked pictures.
He wrote: "Just found out my girlfriend has been having sex with my Dad. He left his phone at the house whilst he's at work.

 

imgur.com / 0bdebd7e Man discovers girlfriend is cheating on him with his own dad
"All messages discussing how she's his 'dirty little secret'. Nudes and everything.
"What do I do? I'm broken."
He then took photographs of his dad's phone and posted the saucy text exchange for all to see.

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In the messages, his dad confesses to the woman that he "just can't stop thinkin about u or last nite" (sic).
She replies: "I can't either but feel to bad about it" (sic) before saying she was getting changed.
When he asks her to 'show him', she resists at first before sending him naked photos.

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The conversation ends with the woman asking when her boyfriend was next at work - with the implication being that they could continue their affair.
The man went on to post screengrabs of his conversation with his girlfriend on Facebook chat, confronting her with a message asking: "Why him?"

imgur.com / 0bdebd7e Man discovers girlfriend is cheating on him with his own dad
At first she appears to deny all knowledge of the affair, saying: "I can't admit to something I haven't got to admit what are you on about," while trying to call him.

imgur.com / 0bdebd7e Man discovers girlfriend is cheating on him with his own dad
When he sends her the photos of his dad's phone which allegedly prove her guilt, she responds: "It was an accident and he pressured me lots. I love you to much please answer me." (sic)
She goes on to claim: "It was only once...your dad sat next to me and we spoke a bit and stuff and I don't know :( he kissed me and it was just quite casual.

imgur.com / 0bdebd7e Man discovers girlfriend is cheating on him with his own dad
"Your dad isn't like a normal dad. It wasn't for long or anything."
During the lengthy message exchange, she even claims that her boyfriend's mum knows about the affair and has forgiven her.
It is not known whether the text exchange is legitimate or whether the couple managed to resolve their issues - but we're guessing that Christmas at their house will be pretty awkward...